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What is love? My girlfriend and I came up with some great metaphors for this intangible bond which holds people together.
Love is……
……A Thrill Ride. Sharing experiences with another person adds an element of non-control into the picture. Suddenly you’ve got a “better half” who you can never completely predict. One reason [...]

My biggest problem making conversation was I’d run out of things to say. And then, to make matters worse, I’d consciously try to come up with something. The universal law of conversation is spontaneity: if you think about what you’re gonna say before the words come out of your mouth, they’re guaranteed to [...]

If you ever find yourself starring in a major Hollywood blockbuster and there’s a girl you want to seduce, here are some ways you can go about doing it.
* Tell her you love her and can’t live without her. If this doesn’t work right away, it’s because she’s not sufficiently convinced, so spend the rest [...]

In civilized society, we go to any extreme to avoid fighting. Long gone are the duels of the past, long outgrown is the namecalling of grade school. And yet, cruelty continues to manifest itself in our actions, sneaking in as passive aggressiveness. We give the “cold shoulder” to our most dearly loved ones, even though [...]

In the United States, the George W. Bush administration decided that it was worthwhile for tax money to be spent on “Abstinence-Only Education” programs, to try and teach young Americans to avoid sexual relationships before getting married. The stated goals of these programs were to reduce unplanned pregnancy and prevent STDs. Of course, abstinence education [...]

Raised and sheltered by radical social conservative parents, I was condemned to a lifetime of loneliness and chastity until I took some initiative and self responsibility. I refused to accept a life without love or affection. I stopped seeing myself as a victim of my upbringing and I took action to change my life. I [...]

In English, the phrase “I love you” has become a fixed expression. Among couples, it often loses its literal sense of expressing love, and instead becomes a kind of communication protocol. All too often, when we say this phrase, we do it with a slight rise at the end, almost like it’s a question, and [...]

When you hang out with the same person, you tend to borrow language patterns from each other. What my girlfriend and I discovered is that there’s actually a certain leader-follower interaction going on. In a relationship where both partners have the same first language and dialect, the difference between the languages is so small that [...]

“Let not light see my black and deep desires.” -MacBeth, Act 1, Scene 4
Human desires are deep and profound. Much more deep and profound than the surface desires we often claim. Usually, a surface desire is a symptom of some deeper desire. When we desire something on the surface, we should figure out what [...]

In a relationship, it’s important that someone take leadership and initiative. Without leadership or initiative, the relationship is in danger of stagnating or becoming boring. It takes some leadership to keep a relationship fresh and new. Leadership to move the relationship in new directions, so that it increases in depth and dimension.
The Dating Dilemma is [...]