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My biggest problem making conversation was I’d run out of things to say. And then, to make matters worse, I’d consciously try to come up with something. The universal law of conversation is spontaneity: if you think about what you’re gonna say before the words come out of your mouth, they’re guaranteed to sound awkward. [...]

Raised and sheltered by radical social conservative parents, I was condemned to a lifetime of loneliness and chastity until I took some initiative and self responsibility. I refused to accept a life without love or affection. I stopped seeing myself as a victim of my upbringing and I took action to change my life. I [...]

I was 23 years old and had never had a real girlfriend or really even kissed a girl. Everything else in my life was all sewn up. I was wealthy, I was in a PhD program following my dreams, I even had a little bit of a social life. But I had absolutely no clue [...]

Here’s something I’ve noticed. I’ll be doing work at my desk, scribbling arcane math or just making a lesson plan. I’ll wad up a piece of paper, turn around, launch if toward the trash… and then sit there, watching it fly through the air, all other productivity stopped until it lands. Just on the basis [...]

Going to Japan, I noticed a stark difference between how the Asian Idols presented themselves, versus how it’s done in the West. At the same time, at a deeper level, they both do the same thing. Of course I’ll say in advance, there are exceptions to both rules, I’m speaking in broad generalities, etc. etc. [...]